Dr Manhattan’s Big Blue Penis

So I caught the midnight showing of Watchmen last night with a couple of my friends.  It was a great movie, very faithful to the original, and I would recommend anyone who hasn’t seen it yet to check it out.

Anyway, one of the things that was unique about the movie was that in several scenes, they show the the manhood of Dr. Manhattan, one of the superheroes in the movie, who parades around naked for most of the film.

Dr Manhattan - Full Frontal

Dr Manhattan - Full Frontal

The reaction from the audience to the Blue Man’s penis was very amusing.  The first time the penis made an appearance on screen, there were whispers and hushed mutterings all throughout the packed theater.  “Was that…?”  “Did they just show….?”  “No they wouldn’t, would they?”

After the first few times, it was pretty clear to everyone, that yes, they were indeed staring at a big blue swinging dick, and everytime Dr. Manhattan appeared on screen naked, there would be a few uncomfortable laughs, and some nervous giggling from a group of girls at the front of the theater.

Now I have to admit, I felt a little embarassed about watching Dr. Manhattan’s penis myself.  When I first realized what I was watching, I could feel my cheeks heating up in embarassment, and I worried about what everyone else was going to think of such a blatant disregard of social norms.

This reaction surprised me, since I grew up in Japan, where depicting male genitalia in the media is more accepted than it is here in the US.  I consider myself pretty liberal when it comes to sexuality, and I am not easily offended, but there I was in the movie theater, blushing over a computer generated penis on some fictional superhero.

It just goes to show what a powerful influence the culture and the society that we grow up in have on our beliefs.  Although I had a pretty liberal upbringing, with very open-minded parents, somewhere along the way I picked up the meme that sexuality is something to be ashamed of, that the penis is something to be embarrassed about and hidden away.

That moment in the movie theater helped to remind me what a powerful effect our beliefs have on the way we act, and the importance of installing more empowering beliefs as I explore the ideas of the seduction communtiy and the boundaries of my own sexuality.

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Regaining Focus

Sometimes in the hustle and bustle of everyday life, we start to lose focus on our ultimate purpose.  I feel like that’s been the case for me lately, with all the distractions and obligations of school, work, and everything else keeping me from really focusing on my personal growth.

This thought really struck home for me today at my Mastermind group’s weekly meeting, where we did an exercise where we wrote down our ultimate goals in the area of business and relationships.  In some areas, I felt like I am making strides, but in others, I feel like I’m starting to slip.  My main takeaways:

1) I need to focus more on school.  Several members of the group talked about how they were struggling in school, and I can relate.  I’ve had a very busy social life lately, going out nearly every day of the week, and while I feel that’s positive development, I feel like the balance in my life has shifted towards too much socializing, and not enough studying.  Listening to what others in the group said about studying has given me renewed motivation to focus on my studies, and get back on track in school.

2) I waste too much time online.  We opened the meeting with a video of Tim Ferris, and I was reminded again that I spend too much time reading articles on me RSS feed reader.  While the articles are often interesting, there’s no way I can ingest the amount of content that I do and make any meaningful changes in my life, and I also end up wasting hours and hours consuming content, instead of producing it.

I think partly this is a symptom of larger problems.  Usually, I tend to seek the distractions of info porn when I’m feeling stressed or uncertain about the future.  Probably some of the stress is due to falling behind in school, and others are caused by worrying about all the other things that are going on with my life.  I’ve quit reading my feeds cold turkey (except when I’m not at home), so I can start taking positive actions instead of just distracting me from the worries of life.

3) I’m starting to backslide on some areas of my life, like communication skills.  For a while, this was a big priority of mine, and I worked on things like tonality, projection, conversations skills, etc., but lately I feel like I’m falling back into old, comfortable, and dysfunctional habits.

What to do?  I need to think more on this one.  I definitely want to take another acting class– possibly next semester, or the next.  Or maybe I can take an improv class with other guys in the group outside class.  I need to project my voice more.  I need to speak up more in group conversations.

Anyway, I have a lot to work on, but it’s nice to regain focus and bring these things back into my consciousness again.  It’s one of the many benefits of being a part of a Mastermind group.

The Year So Far

It’s hard to believe, but the first month of the year has already come and past!  The year is already a twelth of the way done, so how am I doing on my resolutions?

My dancing is coming along, and I feel like I am improving quite a bit as a member of a dance performance team.  I’ve found that the best way for me to make an improvement in an area of my life or to learn a new skill is to take a class.  Having that social accountability and regular schedule helps keep me practicing regularly and making constant improvements.

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Resolutions

The New Year has rolled around, bringing with it an air of change and possibility. Now that I’ve finally recovered from my hangover, it’s a good time to set some goals for the new year and write down my New Years resolutions.

I feel like I achieved most of the goals that I set out to accomplish last year, and I hope to have similar success this year, so that when I look back 12 months from now, I will be able to see all the growth I’ve experienced. I think there are three keys to succeeding in keeping resolutions. They are:

1) Clear Goals

It’s important to set clear, measurable goals. Knowing what you want is the first step to getting what you want.

2) An Action Plan

Just wanting something isn’t enough. You need a clear, step by step plan of what is necessary to achieve your goal. This might involve brainstorming, or even research. The important thing is to figure our exactly what needs to be done, and committing to doing it.

3) Execution

All the planning and wishing in the world won’t get you anywhere unless you actually take action. This can be difficult, but the best thing to do is to stick to the action plan developed in step 2 no matter what (unless it clearly isn’t working) and turn the action into a habit or routine so that it is a regular part of your everyday life.

If you can do the three things above, you can achieve any goal. So without further ado, my goals for the new year:

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Reflections

As the hour grows later, and I prepare to spend the rest of the evening partying away until the New Year, I take a few minutes to reflect on the past year.

Warning: long, navel-gazing post ahead!

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The Key to Success

Recently I stumbled accross an article by Tyler Durden called Implementing a Habit, which talks about what I feel is one of the keys to success in pickup, and in life– being able to implement new habits.  Really, that’s all there is to it.  If you can set clear goals, and create new habits designed to develop the skills necessary to achieve those goals, you can achieve anything you want in life.

That’s one of the things I’ve learned through my study of pickup— the importance of habits.  We become what we repeatedly do, or to quote John Dryden: “We first make our habits, and then our habits make us.” Whether its working out to build a stronger body, or practicing to build a stronger skillset, consistency is the key to ever getting good at anything.

In all the areas in life that I feel I improved in in the past year, I was able to do so by turning it into a habit, by making it a regular part of my life. I feel like I was able to accomplish most of my major goals from the past year, and as I move into a new year, I plan on coming up with a new set of goals, as well as a new set of strategies to build the habits that I need to succeed in reaching those goals.

Giving Thanks

On this day, I am thankful for:

  • My health, without which I wouldn’t have anything.
  • All the great people who invited me to their homes to share food on this great holiday.
  • My friends, my family, and the people who make me smile.
  • Living in a land of opportunity, in an exciting and challenging time.
  • Being alive and looking forward to living.

That’s just the short list, but I’ll keep it there for now until I recover from this food coma.