Style Update

One of my focuses over the past few months has been to improve my style, and I feel I’ve made some large strides in this regard.  I’ve been educating myself about men’s fashion by reading websites such as Kinowear and the Sartorialist and applying what I’ve learned by observing what people around me are wearing, and upgrading my wardrobe.  I’ve gotten to the point that people who haven’t seen me in a while are complimenting me on my style, which is a nice feeling.

My latest addition to my wardrobe are two pairs of designer jeans that I picked up off of Ebay.  One is a pair of Seven for All Manking jeans with a dark blue wash and white stitching, and the other is a dark blue pair of Chip & Pepper jeans with a light brown wash.

I have to say I am very pleased with the jeans so far.  The Chip & Pepper’s especially were quite a find for only $50 (they retail for about $170), and I really like the style and color of the jeans.  At first I felt the jeans were a little tight, but after wearing it for a while, I’ve found them to be just perfect, and they look really great on me.  The Sevens are also very nice, but don’t fit in quite as well into my wardrobe as the Chip & Peppers.  Plus the jeans ride up a little on my crotch, which is a little annoying.

Both of the jeans are a tad too long for me (I feel short now), so I had to get them hemmed at a tailoring shop that does custom alterations.  I have to say I am very happy with the results, and am looking forward to getting more of my clothes fitted for me in the future.

I’m pretty happy with the jeans, and though I might look for another pair or two in different styles to round out my collection, I think I am pretty happy in this department for now.  I think the next step for me is to start looking for a cool blazer that I can wear over my outfits when I go out at night.  I could also use some new shoes, as well as some more cool accessories to compliment my outfits.

Those are the three areas that I feel I need to improve on the most, to take my style to the next level.  If I can round these areas out, and continue to develop and improve my image over the next few months, I’ll be looking like a brand new man by the end of the year.

The Year So Far

It’s hard to believe, but the first month of the year has already come and past!  The year is already a twelth of the way done, so how am I doing on my resolutions?

My dancing is coming along, and I feel like I am improving quite a bit as a member of a dance performance team.  I’ve found that the best way for me to make an improvement in an area of my life or to learn a new skill is to take a class.  Having that social accountability and regular schedule helps keep me practicing regularly and making constant improvements.

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PUA Lingo

My friend AlphaWolf and I launched a new website called PUA Lingo this past weekend.  The idea behind the website is to create the most comprehensive list of PUA and seduction terminology on the Internet, since the pickup community has so much jargon and acronyms.

Before we started the website, we looked around to see what other resources were out there, and found them to be lacking.  While there are a couple sites out there, most of them only have a few dozen words (mostly from the Mystery Method) and the definitions are pretty brief.  Our goal was to create a site with detailed definitions, with links to some of the best resources available for each definition.

So far we’ve collected nearly 400 terms, and we feel like we’re just beginning to scratch the surface.  I’ve learned a lot about the seduction community researching all these words, and hopefully the site will serve as a valuable resource that others will find valuable as well.

Pickup Podcast Episode #76

Another year, another new podcast from the folks over at Pickup Podcast.

Episode #76 was an interview with Jeremy, aka LondonSoul from Love Systems.  I thought the interview was so-so, maybe a 3 out of 5 stars.  Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t a bad interview, there just wasn’t anything ground-breaking or particularly helpful that I took away from it.

Some of the main topics that Jeremy talked in the podcast where his challenges in expressing himself sexually without coming off as sleazy, as well as seeing women as sexual creatures.  I can totally relate, because I had the same sticking points myself before I got into the community.  I was so afraid of offending women, that I probably came off as asexual for all the interest I showed in women, and I didn’t used to have the limiting belief that women were not interested in sex at all.

Fortunately, that has changed in the past two years since I got into the community, and just changing these two things have probably done the most towards getting me results in field.  Looking back now with 20-20 hindsight, I realize that there were women in my life who were interested in me, I just never showed any interest in return.

One of the key quotes from the podcast that I found valuable, is when Johnny (one of the co-hosts) states that women will respect a man more if he is honest about his sexual desires, and expresses his sexuality, even if he is turned down, rather than if he keeps his desires to himself, out of some misguided notion not to “offend” anyone.  I think this is very true, and something to always keep in mind when it comes to the point in the interaction when it’s time to pull the trigger, and switch from a platonic conversation, to a sexual one.

Chief’s Workshop

So I attended a 2-day long PUA workshop up in Palo Alto this past weekend. The workshop was held by Chief, who I’d never heard about before, but I stumbled across a post of his on the SF Lair, and decided to give it a shot. I figured for $40 for a 2-day event, I couldn’t go wrong.

I didn’t really know what to expect going into the workshop, but I certainly wasn’t expecting to find the workshop being taught by some Asian kid with a broken arm, who looked like he was 17. With a name like “Chief”, I suppose I was expecting someone, well, bigger.

I definitely had to keep my ego in check, but I found the workshop to be well worth the money. I met up with a couple of new guys from the community, most of them newbies, and got to spend two days immersed in pick-up materials. Most of the material was already familiar to me, but it was good to go over it again, and I did learn some new things as well. Chief and his two guest speakers were very knowledgeable for their age, and they offered some really solid value over the course of the workshop.

These were my main takeaways from the weekend:

  • We did a helpful exercise on Day 1, where we listed all the people who we respected the most, and despised the most, and identified the characteristics that made them attractive/repulsive to us.  It was a valuable exercise in identifying the characteristics I admire the most, as well as identifying some of my weaknesses.
  • We talked a bit about sexual mastery, and I came away with some new ideas for improving my seduction and technique in the bedroom.  This is not an area I have ventured too far into, beyond the basics, so it is something I want to explore further this year.
  • We also talked  bit about massage, which is a skill I would like to learn.  I commit to getting a few full body massages done to me this year, and practicing my skills on the women in my life.
  • We talked a little about Vin DiCarlo’s “objection game” which I found to be an interesting concept.
  • We did some practice approaching, which reminded me that I am still very weak when it comes to starting conversations with strangers.  I was reminded also that I need to continue working on my vocal projection and vocal variety.
  • We also learned a couple of routines (the cube, strawberry fields, ring routine) which were all pretty new to me.

Overall, it was a fun and informative workshop, where I learned new things, reviewed old material, and identified some key challenge points that I need to work on in the coming months.  It was a good experience and has helped me to focus on my goals for the new year.

Resolutions

The New Year has rolled around, bringing with it an air of change and possibility. Now that I’ve finally recovered from my hangover, it’s a good time to set some goals for the new year and write down my New Years resolutions.

I feel like I achieved most of the goals that I set out to accomplish last year, and I hope to have similar success this year, so that when I look back 12 months from now, I will be able to see all the growth I’ve experienced. I think there are three keys to succeeding in keeping resolutions. They are:

1) Clear Goals

It’s important to set clear, measurable goals. Knowing what you want is the first step to getting what you want.

2) An Action Plan

Just wanting something isn’t enough. You need a clear, step by step plan of what is necessary to achieve your goal. This might involve brainstorming, or even research. The important thing is to figure our exactly what needs to be done, and committing to doing it.

3) Execution

All the planning and wishing in the world won’t get you anywhere unless you actually take action. This can be difficult, but the best thing to do is to stick to the action plan developed in step 2 no matter what (unless it clearly isn’t working) and turn the action into a habit or routine so that it is a regular part of your everyday life.

If you can do the three things above, you can achieve any goal. So without further ado, my goals for the new year:

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Reflections

As the hour grows later, and I prepare to spend the rest of the evening partying away until the New Year, I take a few minutes to reflect on the past year.

Warning: long, navel-gazing post ahead!

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