Dr Manhattan’s Big Blue Penis

So I caught the midnight showing of Watchmen last night with a couple of my friends.  It was a great movie, very faithful to the original, and I would recommend anyone who hasn’t seen it yet to check it out.

Anyway, one of the things that was unique about the movie was that in several scenes, they show the the manhood of Dr. Manhattan, one of the superheroes in the movie, who parades around naked for most of the film.

Dr Manhattan - Full Frontal

Dr Manhattan - Full Frontal

The reaction from the audience to the Blue Man’s penis was very amusing.  The first time the penis made an appearance on screen, there were whispers and hushed mutterings all throughout the packed theater.  “Was that…?”  “Did they just show….?”  “No they wouldn’t, would they?”

After the first few times, it was pretty clear to everyone, that yes, they were indeed staring at a big blue swinging dick, and everytime Dr. Manhattan appeared on screen naked, there would be a few uncomfortable laughs, and some nervous giggling from a group of girls at the front of the theater.

Now I have to admit, I felt a little embarassed about watching Dr. Manhattan’s penis myself.  When I first realized what I was watching, I could feel my cheeks heating up in embarassment, and I worried about what everyone else was going to think of such a blatant disregard of social norms.

This reaction surprised me, since I grew up in Japan, where depicting male genitalia in the media is more accepted than it is here in the US.  I consider myself pretty liberal when it comes to sexuality, and I am not easily offended, but there I was in the movie theater, blushing over a computer generated penis on some fictional superhero.

It just goes to show what a powerful influence the culture and the society that we grow up in have on our beliefs.  Although I had a pretty liberal upbringing, with very open-minded parents, somewhere along the way I picked up the meme that sexuality is something to be ashamed of, that the penis is something to be embarrassed about and hidden away.

That moment in the movie theater helped to remind me what a powerful effect our beliefs have on the way we act, and the importance of installing more empowering beliefs as I explore the ideas of the seduction communtiy and the boundaries of my own sexuality.


PUA Lingo

My friend AlphaWolf and I launched a new website called PUA Lingo this past weekend.  The idea behind the website is to create the most comprehensive list of PUA and seduction terminology on the Internet, since the pickup community has so much jargon and acronyms.

Before we started the website, we looked around to see what other resources were out there, and found them to be lacking.  While there are a couple sites out there, most of them only have a few dozen words (mostly from the Mystery Method) and the definitions are pretty brief.  Our goal was to create a site with detailed definitions, with links to some of the best resources available for each definition.

So far we’ve collected nearly 400 terms, and we feel like we’re just beginning to scratch the surface.  I’ve learned a lot about the seduction community researching all these words, and hopefully the site will serve as a valuable resource that others will find valuable as well.

Pickup Podcast Episode #76

Another year, another new podcast from the folks over at Pickup Podcast.

Episode #76 was an interview with Jeremy, aka LondonSoul from Love Systems.  I thought the interview was so-so, maybe a 3 out of 5 stars.  Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t a bad interview, there just wasn’t anything ground-breaking or particularly helpful that I took away from it.

Some of the main topics that Jeremy talked in the podcast where his challenges in expressing himself sexually without coming off as sleazy, as well as seeing women as sexual creatures.  I can totally relate, because I had the same sticking points myself before I got into the community.  I was so afraid of offending women, that I probably came off as asexual for all the interest I showed in women, and I didn’t used to have the limiting belief that women were not interested in sex at all.

Fortunately, that has changed in the past two years since I got into the community, and just changing these two things have probably done the most towards getting me results in field.  Looking back now with 20-20 hindsight, I realize that there were women in my life who were interested in me, I just never showed any interest in return.

One of the key quotes from the podcast that I found valuable, is when Johnny (one of the co-hosts) states that women will respect a man more if he is honest about his sexual desires, and expresses his sexuality, even if he is turned down, rather than if he keeps his desires to himself, out of some misguided notion not to “offend” anyone.  I think this is very true, and something to always keep in mind when it comes to the point in the interaction when it’s time to pull the trigger, and switch from a platonic conversation, to a sexual one.

Chief’s Workshop

So I attended a 2-day long PUA workshop up in Palo Alto this past weekend. The workshop was held by Chief, who I’d never heard about before, but I stumbled across a post of his on the SF Lair, and decided to give it a shot. I figured for $40 for a 2-day event, I couldn’t go wrong.

I didn’t really know what to expect going into the workshop, but I certainly wasn’t expecting to find the workshop being taught by some Asian kid with a broken arm, who looked like he was 17. With a name like “Chief”, I suppose I was expecting someone, well, bigger.

I definitely had to keep my ego in check, but I found the workshop to be well worth the money. I met up with a couple of new guys from the community, most of them newbies, and got to spend two days immersed in pick-up materials. Most of the material was already familiar to me, but it was good to go over it again, and I did learn some new things as well. Chief and his two guest speakers were very knowledgeable for their age, and they offered some really solid value over the course of the workshop.

These were my main takeaways from the weekend:

  • We did a helpful exercise on Day 1, where we listed all the people who we respected the most, and despised the most, and identified the characteristics that made them attractive/repulsive to us.  It was a valuable exercise in identifying the characteristics I admire the most, as well as identifying some of my weaknesses.
  • We talked a bit about sexual mastery, and I came away with some new ideas for improving my seduction and technique in the bedroom.  This is not an area I have ventured too far into, beyond the basics, so it is something I want to explore further this year.
  • We also talked  bit about massage, which is a skill I would like to learn.  I commit to getting a few full body massages done to me this year, and practicing my skills on the women in my life.
  • We talked a little about Vin DiCarlo’s “objection game” which I found to be an interesting concept.
  • We did some practice approaching, which reminded me that I am still very weak when it comes to starting conversations with strangers.  I was reminded also that I need to continue working on my vocal projection and vocal variety.
  • We also learned a couple of routines (the cube, strawberry fields, ring routine) which were all pretty new to me.

Overall, it was a fun and informative workshop, where I learned new things, reviewed old material, and identified some key challenge points that I need to work on in the coming months.  It was a good experience and has helped me to focus on my goals for the new year.

Pickup Podcast Epdisode 73

I listened to the latest episodes of pickup podcast today, which features an interview with Mehow.  It’s a solid two part episode, and I actually listened to the whole thing twice during my workout.

One of the things that Mehow mentioned in the interview that I found interesting was that he argues that the best way to become a natural is by learning routines.  He used the metaphor of a dancer starting out by learning a set routine of patterns in order to master the fundamentals, before learning to improvise on their own, which really resonanted with me as a dancer.  I have so far stayed away from using too much canned material in my pickup, but I found Mehow’s arguments to be pretty convincing.

Mehow and Jordan also talked a bit about pickup ethics in the interview, and the dilemma of going after girls who have boyfriends.  I found myself agreeing with Mehow again, who argued that picking up girls with BFs is fair game.  A girl might be in a relationship, but relationships can be ended.  Ultimately it comes down to who is providing the greater value to a girl’s life.  If a girl is in a relationship where her needs are not being met, there’s no reason why she should stay in it.  As far as I’m concerned, people (both men and women) spend way too much time in unfulfilling relationships as it is.

Anyway, those are my thoughts on the episode.  It’s one of the better one’s I’ve heard in a while, so I would definitely recommend checking it out.

Approach Challenge – Day 1

So I committed at yesterday’s meeting to do at least one approach a day for the next fourteen days.  Today was Day 1, and I actually completely forgot about the challenge for the entire morning while I was at school, and it wasn’t until later in the day during work that I remembered that I needed to do an approach.

Since I work at the mall, I headed over to Nordstrom’s during my lunch break to get my daily approach in.  I milled around for a bit, trying to figure out a plan of attack, before I settled on a good old-fashioned opinion openner.

I made my way to the women’s section, where I saw a bunch of women browsing through some purses that were on sale.  I walked over, and looked at some of the bags, before stopping one of women (an older woman) for her opinion:

Me: “Is this bag any good?”

Her: “It’s expensive, what are you looking for?”

Me: “I don’t really know.  I hate shopping.”

We proceeded to get into a short conversation where she explained about different brands of bags, and how purple was the color of the season, and what kind of bags different girls like.  The woman was surprisingly helpful, and even brought in a couple of female friends to opine on different bags.  I felt bad for wasting their time, so I politely thanked them for their advice, and ejected.

Having warmed up, I decided to find the hottest woman in the store, and approach her.  I rode the escalator up to the third floor of Nordstrom’s, and found a tall, attractive Asian woman looking at some purses.  I decided to open her using a false presumption:

Me: “Scuse me, do you work here?”

Her: “No…” (looking slightly startled) “I’m just shopping.”

Me: “Hey, do you happen to know where the scarves are?”

Her: “Scarves?  I think they’re on the second floor.”

I didn’t really have anywhere to go from that, so I thanked her and ejected.  By then, lunch break was over, so I returned back to work.

Overall, I had some pretty lame approaches today, but at least I got the ball rolling.  I’ll work on escalating a bit more over the next few weeks, showing actual interest instead of mindless chitchat.  I might even try purposely trying to get blown out by dropping some of the cheesiest pick-up lines ever.  That will be fun to write about at least.

Pickup Podcast Epdisode 72

Feeling sick today :/  But I did manage to drag myself to the gym for my daily workout, while listening to the latest episode of Pickup Podcast.  The Pickup Podcast, for those who haven’t checked it out before, is probably the best source for free pickup related material out there.  It focuses not only on seduction, but on social dynamics and lifestyle building in general, and features interviews with some of the biggest names in the industry.

Anyway, this episode’s interview was with Adam “AFC” Lyons from AttractionExplained.com.  Adam is a great guy with a lot of good things to say (he recently visited us at the SF Lair), but I felt the interview didn’t really come together.  It was a good listen, but there weren’t a lot of actionable steps or insights that I feel I can put into practice in my life.

For example, one of the things that Adam spends a lot of time talking about in the interviewing is rolling into a venue with an entourage of 30-40 women as a way of building massive social proof.  I believe it, but I wish he would have mentioned some specific steps one could go about to build such an army (i.e., how do I go from an entourage of 0  to 40?).

One thing I did find interesting, though, is that Adam is working on getting a Doctorate degree in psychology, with a focus on seduction.  It will be interesting to see the kinds of papers he publishes, being one of the top pickup artists in the world with tons of first-hand experience in the area of seduction.  So much of the psychological research on love and attraction is bunk, so it is exciting to see someone from the seduction community entering academia to show them what real attraction looks like.