PUA Lingo Listed in the Yahoo Directory!

AlphaWolf and I have been working hard on our site, PUA Lingo, and now the site has been listed in the Yahoo Directory!

You can find our listing in the directory here:

Yahoo Directory Listing

You can also find the actual listing for our site here:

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New Style Website!

I haven’t written in ages, but I just wanted to update the blog to let everyone know that I’ve come out with my first product!

AlphaWolf and I have been working together for the past few months to put together an ebook called Seduce With Style which is a comprehensive guide to men’s style and attractive fashion.

It’s a really cool book, and I’m not saying that just because I helped write it. This book to me is the book that I wish I’d had when I first started getting into style and fashion. There are a lot of style websites, magazines, and books out there, but there’s nothing really comprehensive out there that builds you up from the ground up.

Seduce With Style does that. We basically assume that the reader knows absolutely nothing about style, and teach them everything they need to know, from the fundamentals all the way to the most advanced concepts. Plus, the book focuses specifically on attraction fashion, so you can put together a look that gets you results in your dating and pickup life.

Bottom line is I’m very proud of this book, and am excited to contribute this missing piece of the puzzle to the seduction community!

Breakup

Well, I had my first breakup today. Ever since I got into the game a little over two years ago, I haven’t really needed to breakup with any of the girls that I was seeing, mostly because I kept the relationships at a very casual level so I could improve my skills with women, and not be tied down in a relationship. Some of the girls I was seeing would drop off every once in a while, but it was never a big deal.

This girl was different, though. At the time I first started seeing her, I was also seeing other women, but gradually she started pushing for more and more exclusivity. And I caved to her demands, mostly because she was a lot more attractive than other girls I was seeing at the time, the kind of girl that turns heads and gets a lot of attention from guys.

Looking back though, I feel like I should never have let things get this far. If she couldn’t deal with me seeing other women, I should have just let her go. Instead I continued seeing her. And it was fun. The sex was good, and we had a lot of good times together, but lately I just haven’t been feeling it with her, and I decided it was time for this relationship to come to an end.

The actual breakup wasn’t too bad. I explained how I felt pretty calmly, without placing any blame on her, and let her know how I felt. She did get defensive a few times, but I used the I perspective to help diffuse any bad feelings, and kept from answering any questions that might have hurt her feelings (as per Dan’s advice). There were a few tears shed, but mostly we reminisced about the good times we had, and kept things very civil.

I hope that we can remain friends, especially since we share social circles and do see each other from time to time. The fact that we’re in the same social circle is one of the reasons I was initially hesitant to go out with her, but I’ve been in similar situations before, and have always regretted not having pulled the trigger. This time I decided I didn’t want to live with any regrets, and I think things worked out for the best.

Anyway, it was fun to have experienced being in a committed LTR for a while, but it’s time to move on. School starts again this week, which means there will be tons of cute girls hanging around campus. I’ve been back in school for a year now, and ironically, all of the girls that I’ve been with over the past year, I met outside of school. This semester I definitely want to work some college game, and build my social circle within school. Here’s to a new semester, and to cute freshmen girls!

Announcing the SeductionList Directory

It’s been a while since I’ve posted, but I’ve been hard at work on a number of projects.  My most recent one, which I’m happy to unveil today is called the SeductionList Directory. The SeductionList is a project that AlphaWolf and I have been working on for the past couple months, and is basically the largest directory of pickup and seduction related websites on the Internet.

The idea for the site came about when we were doing research for PUA Lingo, and discovered the amazing wealth of PUA content available online. There’s just so much content out there, and even though Alpha and I had been in the Game for years, there were a lot more PUA sites out there than either of us ever realized.

The SeductionList is our attempt at collecting all the PUA websites into a single, easy to use directory. On the site, we feature all the sites we’ve found in easy to navigate categories. We also have user ratings, so that people can rate the sites, so that it’s easy to find the best content available on the web. The site also features a blog, where we plan on doing in-depth site profiles as well as top 10 lists of various PUA sites.

So far, we’ve collected a little over 400 PUA sites, but we’re just scratching the surface. Over the coming weeks and months we’ll be adding hundreds more, and if there’s a site you like that’s not listed, you can also submit it to us directly.

Hopefully you’ll find the SeductionList to be a useful resource on your journey to being a PUA, and I’m looking forward to cataloging all the great sites that are out there.

Update: Now listed on DMOZ!

I Love You Man

I just saw the movie “I Love You Man”, and it was surprisingly good.  I haven’t laughed so hard in a movie theater in quite some time.

The movie’s main plot revolves around a guy who’s getting married, who has a lot of female friends, but not a lot of guy friends, who goes out to find himself some guy friends so he can have a best man for his wedding.

The movie was hilarious, and I found myself relating a lot to the main protagonist.  Looking at my own relationships, I have a lot more close female friends than I do guy friends.  Just today I went out to eat lunch with one of my close female friends, and I’ve gone out dancing with at least three different female friends in the past week.

I don’t like sports, I don’t consider myself very loud and raucous, and I don’t do a lot of stereotypically “male” activities.  Maybe it’s because of a childhood growing up with my mom and my sister, because my dad was never around, and because my dad was such a poor role-model that I wanted to be nothing like him when I grew up.  Or maybe it’s because I somehow picked up through social conditioning that acting masculine and sexual is somehow “wrong”.

Whatever the reason, I can relate a lot to the caricatured portrayal of a man with no strong male relationships, as portrayed in the movie.  Being a man raised by women, and unsure of the proper way to be a man, and how to express one’s masculinity is also a common theme within the PUA community.

How does the modern man behave?  What is his relationship with women, and with other men?  How does he balance his masculinity, with his respect for femininity?  These are some of the questions I have been asking myself, and it was good to be reminded of them in this great movie.

Dr Manhattan’s Big Blue Penis

So I caught the midnight showing of Watchmen last night with a couple of my friends.  It was a great movie, very faithful to the original, and I would recommend anyone who hasn’t seen it yet to check it out.

Anyway, one of the things that was unique about the movie was that in several scenes, they show the the manhood of Dr. Manhattan, one of the superheroes in the movie, who parades around naked for most of the film.

Dr Manhattan - Full Frontal

Dr Manhattan - Full Frontal

The reaction from the audience to the Blue Man’s penis was very amusing.  The first time the penis made an appearance on screen, there were whispers and hushed mutterings all throughout the packed theater.  “Was that…?”  “Did they just show….?”  “No they wouldn’t, would they?”

After the first few times, it was pretty clear to everyone, that yes, they were indeed staring at a big blue swinging dick, and everytime Dr. Manhattan appeared on screen naked, there would be a few uncomfortable laughs, and some nervous giggling from a group of girls at the front of the theater.

Now I have to admit, I felt a little embarassed about watching Dr. Manhattan’s penis myself.  When I first realized what I was watching, I could feel my cheeks heating up in embarassment, and I worried about what everyone else was going to think of such a blatant disregard of social norms.

This reaction surprised me, since I grew up in Japan, where depicting male genitalia in the media is more accepted than it is here in the US.  I consider myself pretty liberal when it comes to sexuality, and I am not easily offended, but there I was in the movie theater, blushing over a computer generated penis on some fictional superhero.

It just goes to show what a powerful influence the culture and the society that we grow up in have on our beliefs.  Although I had a pretty liberal upbringing, with very open-minded parents, somewhere along the way I picked up the meme that sexuality is something to be ashamed of, that the penis is something to be embarrassed about and hidden away.

That moment in the movie theater helped to remind me what a powerful effect our beliefs have on the way we act, and the importance of installing more empowering beliefs as I explore the ideas of the seduction communtiy and the boundaries of my own sexuality.

Regaining Focus

Sometimes in the hustle and bustle of everyday life, we start to lose focus on our ultimate purpose.  I feel like that’s been the case for me lately, with all the distractions and obligations of school, work, and everything else keeping me from really focusing on my personal growth.

This thought really struck home for me today at my Mastermind group’s weekly meeting, where we did an exercise where we wrote down our ultimate goals in the area of business and relationships.  In some areas, I felt like I am making strides, but in others, I feel like I’m starting to slip.  My main takeaways:

1) I need to focus more on school.  Several members of the group talked about how they were struggling in school, and I can relate.  I’ve had a very busy social life lately, going out nearly every day of the week, and while I feel that’s positive development, I feel like the balance in my life has shifted towards too much socializing, and not enough studying.  Listening to what others in the group said about studying has given me renewed motivation to focus on my studies, and get back on track in school.

2) I waste too much time online.  We opened the meeting with a video of Tim Ferris, and I was reminded again that I spend too much time reading articles on me RSS feed reader.  While the articles are often interesting, there’s no way I can ingest the amount of content that I do and make any meaningful changes in my life, and I also end up wasting hours and hours consuming content, instead of producing it.

I think partly this is a symptom of larger problems.  Usually, I tend to seek the distractions of info porn when I’m feeling stressed or uncertain about the future.  Probably some of the stress is due to falling behind in school, and others are caused by worrying about all the other things that are going on with my life.  I’ve quit reading my feeds cold turkey (except when I’m not at home), so I can start taking positive actions instead of just distracting me from the worries of life.

3) I’m starting to backslide on some areas of my life, like communication skills.  For a while, this was a big priority of mine, and I worked on things like tonality, projection, conversations skills, etc., but lately I feel like I’m falling back into old, comfortable, and dysfunctional habits.

What to do?  I need to think more on this one.  I definitely want to take another acting class– possibly next semester, or the next.  Or maybe I can take an improv class with other guys in the group outside class.  I need to project my voice more.  I need to speak up more in group conversations.

Anyway, I have a lot to work on, but it’s nice to regain focus and bring these things back into my consciousness again.  It’s one of the many benefits of being a part of a Mastermind group.